We aren't the moment
Every living thing is in constant development all the time even if it sometimes feels like time has stopped. Consider these blooming flowers. They take their time, but grow as beautiful and large as the environment allows. At the end they occupy multiples of the space that their small initial flower buds have taken. When given enough room for growth, enough light and enough watering, every flower can outgrow its initial plans.
Finally, we need to work more frequently with people who are able to see the progress in us and describe it concretely.